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The following is adapted from a commencement address Philip G. Zimbardo delivered at the University of Puget Sound earlier this month. Dr. Zimbardo, a giant in the field of social psychology, is now a professor at Palo Alto University, a professor emeritus at Stanford University, and the president of the Heroic Imagination Project. In the text of his talk below, we have embedded links to research supporting his advice to graduates.
As I now complete my 55th year of teaching psychology, I am ever more grateful for the unique opportunity we teachers each have to learn from and share in the youthful exuberance of our students.
Teachers who inspire their students are everyday heroes, who should be more treasured by our society, as should parents and guardians like you here today who have sacrificed much for the well-being and success of your longtime students.
I wish for all of you graduates a happy life and one that contributes to the collective good. To help you on your way, I want to lay out seven paths to personal happiness and collective well-being based on insights from my research on evil, heroism, time, shyness, and the power of the social situation.
So, here are Dr. Z’s seven paths to a fulfilling life, both personally and communally.
1. Use time wisely and well.
Time is our most precious asset, never to be wasted, and always to be used mindfully by balancing its three energy sources: Being well-grounded in a positive past that links you to your family, identity and culture; being open to the power of the hedonic present that connects you to the energy flow of the moment; and also in being motivated to succeed to the full extent of your ability in your hope-filled future that in turn, enables you to soar to new destinations.
With that temporal balance comes a new flexibility in adapting to the many situational challenges you will face. Respect and learn from the past, yours and those of others. Selectively immerse yourself in a present-orientation that fosters human connection and compassion, while opening you to appreciate nature and art more fully. Use its pleasures as self-rewards for the hard-earned successes you have won, and will achieve by being future-focused.
For several decades, you have been living a rather privileged life—one filled with the entitlement of being free from many societal obligations in order to think, to learn, to reason, to question, and to create. It is now time for you to more fully appreciate that gift by continuing to be a studious student for the rest of your life. As you do so, in Life 2.0, you will add on the commitment of making your community and your nation better in every way that you can.
For me, my continual joy in being a somewhat ever-older student means that I am always filled withcuriosity and wonder, asking why, discovering how, challenging ignorance, and demanding evidence for all assertions by the “true believers.”
3. Nurture your passions.
In addition to making your usual, to-do list of tasks for the day, try making a second private list of what it is that you really want in life each day. Discover what you really feel passionate about and make that an essential focus and energy source in your life.
Doing so means that passionate endeavors will become a source of personal pride, which will help guarantee that your life will never be “meaningless” to you when you look back on it in the future, as too many economically successful business people have sadly reported.
4. Transform shyness into social engagement.
Practice becoming the socially engaging host at life’s parties instead of resigning yourself to be its perpetually reluctant shy guest.
Just as we all have a choice of being a leader or a follower, we each choose whether or not to adopt a shy persona, or a more outgoing one. Shyness is a self-imposed social restriction that limits others from having access to your inner strengths and virtues because you have created that social barrier. My metaphor for shyness is that it is a self-imposed psychological prison, in which one gives up freedom of association and freedom of speech—the most prized and hard-won freedoms of any democracy. But it is our own thinking and feeling that makes it so, not any natural law of nature.
One unexpected joy of graduation and moving on to new venues is that no one there yet knows that you are shy, so you can start all over and fool them into being excited to come to your parties, where you will dance with them, like in novelist Nikos Kazantakis’ wonderful Zorba the Greek.
5. Remake your image.
It is time to trade in your familiar, comfortable habits for personally challenging, novel adventures that canliberate you from the boredom of predictability. From time to time, consider violating the expectations others have about what you are expected to do, or you have come to do routinely and mindlessly.
To rise above the mundane, it is time to take more calculated risks, to learn from your mistakes, to try harder and think wiser the next time around. The simple solution for avoiding cognitive dissonance when your decisions do not work as you had hoped is to practice saying, “I made a mistake. I’m sorry, forgive me, Let’s move on.”
6. Become a positive deviant.
One source of negative group power is the pervasive pressure of social norms over each of us to not take action in emergency situations, to not get involved, to mind our own business, to do nothing when we know we should do something.
Most of us, when we witness examples of bystander apathy, typically say, “I would have gotten involved!” However, when we are actually caught up in the social drama of the social situation, the majority of us cave into the social norm of being helpless, mindless bystanders.
Time to change that. Practice being a social deviant in small ways to experience the power others have over you. Try putting a black dot on your face for a day. When questioned about this out of character marking, simply say, “I just felt like doing it, no big deal.” If you can resist the pressures friends and family and strangers will most likely impose on you to get rid of it, you will have gained a new sense of inner power of the one over the many.
Last, and for me most important, is path seven.
7. Train yourself to become an everyday hero.
Finally, it is time to start a new social revolution by becoming a willing social change agent, prepared to change the world for the better, each day in some way, by standing up, speaking out, and taking action, to do the Right Thing when others are doing the Wrong Thing, or the No Thing. You will make a commitment to challenge all evil in whatever forms it takes, doing so with moral courage linked to righteous integrity.
Let the most valued private virtues of compassion and empathy be your guiding light, but let readiness to engage in everyday heroic action be your daily goal and your most respected civic virtue. Develop a personal code of honor that you are willing to share with others.
Heroism can be developed, can be taught, and can be trained, like other vital individual characteristics, such as assertiveness and mindfulness. Heroism is acting on behalf of others in need or in defense of a moral cause despite potential risks and costs. Thus, it requires a socio-centric orientation rather than an egocentric one. Egocentrism, like pessimism and cynicism, is an enemy of heroism.
You will be more likely to notice someone in need if you have developed the daily habit of opening yourself to other people by routinely noticing what others are doing and imagining what they are feeling. One way to do so each day, in some way, is by trying to make other people feel special, respected, and valued—by sharing with them justifiable complements, while acknowledging their unique individuality.
Also remember that when people are organized into action networks, they carry out the most effective heroism, not as solo warriors. So learn to persuade others to share your vision of what needs fixing, by assembling your buddies into a Hero Squad to challenge collectively the evils of action, such as bullying, gender violence, discrimination, corruption, fraud, slave labor and sex trafficking, while also opposing the more pervasive evils of inaction, such as ignoring the threats of the devastating consequences of global climate change, and the failure to remedy the socio-economic devastation of our Native Americans by decades of non-action or wrong actions of our government agencies.
The challenges before you are many, the opportunities endless, all awaiting your solutions, your youthful energies, and most of all, your glowing idealism ready to be infused into a new kind of smart and wise social activism that can reshape our society in the next decades.
My call to action: Just Do It—But Do It Heroically.
Go forth in peace and joy and love to remake the world for the better, bit by bit, person by person, cause by cause, and heroic action by action.
This article is printed here with permission. It originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of the Greater Good Science Center (GGSC). Based at UC Berkeley, the GGSC studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teaches skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society.
Philip Zimbardo, Ph.D., is a professor emeritus of psychology at Stanford University, a professor at Palo Alto University, a two-time past president of the Western Psychological Association, and a past president of the American Psychological Association. He is also the author of the best-selling book The Lucifer Effect and the president of the Heroic Imagination Project.
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My family & I are Headed to Kenya next Saturday July 6th on my Personal Mission Trip. We have collected over 100 boxes of used clothings to go be a blessing with. Elementary school kids from Utah heard our pleas and helped make this happen.
We have a container coming to pick them up July 5th so all the help I need would be from Monday July 1st – wed July 3rd. I will work on the 4th but not expecting to take up your holiday time.
This past weekend was my 2nd Fathers Day. Last year I was happy to be a brand new Father yet my son #AugustTheGreat was only 1 month old. This year I would say felt like a full official 1st Fathers Day .
My fraternity brother Andre started off the weekend early and invited us over his house on Saturday for BBQ and celebration with the kids. #AugustTheGreat enjoyed himself running back and forth through the house, screen door, everywhere.
The following day we decided to throw a Fathers Day BBQ at my house and invited my frat brothers and their wives and children.
I woke up early and set up my gazebo outside with my traditional African mud clothes and Kenyan flag. Set up the grill and when the fathers came through, the fun began. The boys were fighting all day.. Fun fighting for toys games. Continue reading
My Name is Stan Otieno Ogwel. I was Born in Kenya and Moved to the United States at 8 years old. I remember quite a lot about my early childhood in Kenya but as i’ve grown i’ve missed it as well. I lived the American Dream (From an African Standpoint) I got to Play Baseball, Football, Went to the Prom, Went to College, Joined a Fraternity and Promoted lot’s and lot’s of Parties..
What I’m wanting to do with my campaign is to make a short documentary on the life i’ve lived out here and the life that I missed out there. I will be interviewing Americans and Africans around my age group to compare and contrast about the different timelines of our lives since I left Kenya. While doing that, I have a social project that I want to incorporate duriing my trip as well. I want to be a Blessing to a few people who I haven’t even met yet. I need your help in order to make that happen.
I can’t believe it’s already been a year. Today was our son August The Greats 1st Birthday.
I never knew what i’d feel like when I got the chance to be a father. I remember always looking towards the future knowing that one day i’d get the opportunity to become the best father ever to my future children.
This past Friday I took my son August the Great to his 1st Community Service event. This weekend was his 1st Birthday Weekend and I wanted to start a tradition with him to where he’s able to give back for all the blessings he will have growing up.
I attend a feed the homeless program every 3rd Friday with my Fraternity (Alpha Phi Alpha) at the First Institutional Baptist Church in Phoenix Arizona. I’ve been involved with this community service event ever since I joined my fraternity in 2001. Continue reading
Everyday I’m able to see how Amazing God is in blessing us all. We are all blessed everyday that we breathe and some of us are blessed to find out what we were put on this earth for at an early age.
You know that you’re getting old when you get on with life and ask around about how certain family members and friends are doing and you just say okay and keep on going down the list happy that everyone is still alive and progressing. Well I had that conversation over 2 years ago about a few friends and family members and this post is about one of them. Continue reading
Therefore I exhort first of all that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks be made for all men, for kings and all who are in authority, that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and reverence. For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Savior, (I Timothy 2:1-3 NKJV)
I’ve been feeling pretty tired and overwhelmed lately. I never thought 40 hours of Work, 18 college credit hours at night and spending time with the Mrs and 10month old son would be exhaustive.
I decided to pray about my tiredness and asked for strength to do all things through Christ that’s in Me. My revelation told me to WAKE up Even EARLIER.. (For Real Lord?) so my alarm has been set for 5:45am Mon – Fri.
But I was still getting tired, I even took a week off work. Then I was instructed to to what I was told.. Everyday.. Not just weekly.. Saturday & Sunday too.. So I started waking up at 6am on Saturdays and made it my duty to go to one of my mentors barber shop to get a cut weekly.
I called Anthony at Ageez Barber Shop and told him to keep a seat open for me because I need to make it my routine to wake up earlier to get everything done. It’s been a month of coming in early and sticking to my revelation to get less tired by just getting up earlier and finishing most of my work.
This morning while at Ageez Barber Shop at 6:30am, Anthony told me that the Mayor of Phoenix Greg Stanton would be at the shop to speak with us about changes happening in Phoenix.
The mayor came to the shop, spoke to us about the new light rail being planned for central avenue, getting the community involved in the planning of the city and asked me to get involved with the big brothers of phoenix to help mentor younger men within the community. I was able to get one of my shirts to the mayor and he gladly wore it and gave me some kind words to keep spreading the message of Love.
The moral of the story is this. When you wake up early everyday, opportunities will present themselves to you and all you have to do at that point is seize that opportunity. Thank you God Bless to Ageez Barbershop and the Mayor of Phoenix, Greg Stanton.
I was outside for only 5 mins when I noticed the clouds moving super low and extra dark. Something told me to take a picture of it because I don’t usually see this in phoenix AZ. A loud thunderstorm hit and then it started hailing. I ran quickly to move my car into the garage but the storm got me lol.. Check the video below on how quick things can change.